Monthly Archives: January 2014

Stress – Welcome back my old friend

Ha, so it’s Thursday again, the day I’ve deemed best (re: most open) for me to do a weekly post. Except we’ve been hit by Winter Storm Janus? I think? Anyway, obviously the people here are NOT used to snow because we had MAYBE 2 inches? And the schools have been closed for two days now 😡

Also, my parents are flying in today – to spend the kid’s birthday with us AND to babysit said child while the hubs and I take a much needed and much anticipated trip to celebrate our 15th wedding anniversary – which is next week.

On top of that – it’s cold in the downstairs because it’s so cold outside that the furnace can’t keep the house hot enough /o\

And we think the pipe in the guest bath has frozen again – because of the extremely low temperatures and the fact that that particular part of the bathroom is directly over the front porch (at the corner of the house) and therefore gets the full brunt of the wind.

So any hope I had of making some kind of brilliant, thought-provoking post has flown out the window. Welcome to my life LOL. Also, there will be NO post next week because of aforementioned anniversary trip 😀

Bottom line – Have a good weekend! Have a fabulous two weeks. I’ll see you in February!



Fridging – Discuss

So, fridging. I’m sure we’ve all heard the term, it means the kidnapping, torture or killing of a female character with the express purpose of causing angst for the male hero. It originated in comics. The term was first coined in 1999 by writer Gail Simone in reference to the Green Lantern Comic #54 in which Kyle Rayner (the Green Lantern) comes home to find that Major Force (the bad guy) has killed Kyle’s girlfriend Alex DeWitt and stuffed her into a refrigerator.

There are a whole SLEW of examples across all different types of media. Jenny Calendar in Buffy the Vampire Slayer (although her death was also because she was trying to restore Angelus’ soul…still remains that he killed her and left her for Giles to find in the cruelest way possible), Haley Hotchner in Criminal Minds, just about every “friend or acquaintance” on MacGyver or Matlock – always used as a plot device to jumpstart the plot and provide angst for the respective leads.

It has bled over into more than just killing off a female character. I’ve seen the deaths of POC and gay characters labled as ‘fridging’ (as well they SHOULD be) because their deaths only serve to increase the angst of one or more of the male heroes. (I’m not going to get into the trope of “Gay characters never have happy endings” because that would be a whole entry in and of itself. Also the depressing lack of POC survival in so many things, again a whole entry in and of itself). Ianto’s death in Torchwood, and Boyd’s death on Teen Wolf are perfect examples of this.

An alternative definition that I found, that for the life of me I cannot seem to find again *headdesk* is “the death of a character to provide angst for the main character and push the plot along.” It raised the question then – when is fridging NOT fridging? The whole point of writing something is to create conflict, to cause ‘angst’ for the main characters and often the best way to do that is to ‘go after the person they care about the most’. So when is fridging NOT fridging?

When you write conflict and create angst for the main character – because really, the happy ending is that much sweeter when it’s harder to get there – how do you do it without ‘going after’ (for lack of a better phrasing) the things/people they care about? Their job, their house, their family, their love interest, their pet, etc. At some point one or all of these is going to be at risk. So where do we draw the line between being true to the story and manufacturing angst?

I don’t have the answer to this. It’s precisely why I wanted to post about this. I’m interested in hearing YOUR thoughts. How do you draw that line in the sand? Where do you draw it?

*waves hand* discuss amongst yourselves 😀

Have a great weekend!



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Happy New Year

Happy New Year, Everyone!

I’m seeing a lot of resolution posts. I don’t believe in them myself mostly because I rarely stick to them. I’m also seeing a lot of “Goals for 2014” posts – I DO believe in making goals. So that’s what I’m going to do. And here they are:

1. Edit, Submit, and hopefully Publish my May-December Novella Fixing the Hole
2. Finish, Edit, and Submit Pinch of Salt – the sequel to A Watched Demon Always Boils
3. Finish, Edit, and Submit Shifting Claims – a werewolf story
4. Write, Edit, Submit and hopefully Publish – short story for Torquere’s Man In Uniform anthology
5. Write my HET /o\ sci-fi, post-apocalyptic story
6. Plot out and write my soul bond story.

1. Play with my kid more.
2. Hit the gym four days a week (I’m currently doing two)
3. Help the dog pass obedience school – I need to spend more time working with her during the day.
4. Balance OUR family with the extended family and make sure we have plenty of time for just us.

The writing goals are probably pretty lofty – but hey, maybe if I put them out there I might actually achieve them by the end of the year. There are a couple other things I’m kicking around on that front but those are the ones I really want to focus on this year.

The personal stuff is really all about balance. So I guess my main goal is better balance in everything – and that IS a lofty goal.

OH and the writing stuff? I’m definitely open to brainstorming – especially on 3-6 – volunteers accepted 😀

Hope 2014 has gotten off to a great start!

Next week – seriously, I want to do this post about ‘fridging’ and get into a really good discussion about it. So research and come ready to chat.

Have a good weekend!